Who is the greatest in a marriage, the husband or the wife?

“But he that is greatest among you shall be your servant.” (Matthew 23:11)

The essence of a long-lasting marriage is the willingness to serve one another. The greatest is the one who serves the most. This is something that is evident when we analyse Abraham and Sarah’s relationship.

Nowadays, couples are worried about who will have the final say, and who will prove that they are the strongest or the head. This is what causes problems; they think that they are showing strength by imposing their ideas and opinions. However, this only creates hurt and destroys relationships. Unfortunately, this is a mentality that many people have been exposed to, therefore, people get into relationships with their guards up.

Abraham served Sarah his whole life. He was concerned with her safety and respected her. He never shamed her because she couldn’t give him a child. We all have weaknesses and limitations, so it isn’t fair to use your spouse’s weaknesses against them.

Sarah also served Abraham. She would call him ‘lord’, which was a custom then, but she respected him and understood that he wasn’t only leading her, but the entire family to the land that God would show him.

When you serve your partner, you are serving Jesus, even if your spouse doesn’t share the same faith as you. Some only serve their spouse in order to have peace of mind and not with the right intentions. Many serve those who are in a position of authority, but they don’t serve God. If their manager or pastor asks them to do something, they will jump at the chance, but if their colleague or family member asks for help, they complain or refuse to help.

Many are nice to those who have the ability to give them something but are arrogant towards those who are on the same level as them. This is not the spirit of a servant. A servant wants to please and doesn’t think about themselves. People who behave like this are not ready to be in a relationship, because in a relationship, you are equal. This is why there are couples who are arrogant towards each other and don’t know how to communicate.

When you serve and are willing to please your partner, you are showing that you are greater than your feelings and opinions. You aren’t being selfish, and you will feel good.

Those who have a spirit of servanthood will have a long-lasting relationship. Abraham and Sarah served each other, and that is why they became a reference.

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